Our spiritual relationship to inanimate objects, such as clothing, plays an integral role in our experiences of pleasure and intimacy. Furthermore, the wardrobe we choose reveals how we choose to express ourselves in our interactions with others.

You pick toys up when you want to play. You stop when you feel tired or satisfied; ideally both.

Sexual pleasure for women is considered a big taboo in South Asia, especially in Pakistan. People consider it indecent to discuss ‘sex’, and when there is a link between a woman and the word ‘sex’, the reactions becomes worse. Throughout time, people have often shown disgust towards women who are sexually active or open up about their experiences.

When was the last time you paused to think about what makes you feel good? The truth is not many of us do, especially those engaged in community organizing. Even the thought of it feels misplaced.

I grew up learning about sex from the books I read and the hushed conversations that followed in school later. I say sex and not intimacy, but there’s only so much intimacy featured within media and pop culture. Intimacy comes from people - and the people around me seemed to have no idea what it meant.

“A good woman is clueless, demure, obedient, and eager to please upon her First Time, guided by her heavy-handed husband. I was taught inexperience was attractive.”